Yup’ik leader, Dr. Paul John of Toksook Bay gave a lecture at the Kuskowim Campus in Bethel last week. In part three of our series on his lecture, we will hear some of his thoughts about parenting and how to support others with alcoholism. KYUK’s Sophie Evan has more.
Dr. Paul John ended his lecture by opening the floor to anyone who had a question; he said he would answer if he could. The first question asked was from a man in the audience…..
Cut 1 “how do you discipline your child or children who decide to use alcohol or use drugs, thank you.” :11
With out hesitation, Dr. John answered with absolute resolution….
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With Love, he says, always with love, if your child is meant to hear your good advice, your child will take your concern and love to heart and begin to feel bad about his destructive behavior and begin the change for the better. He added that you talk to your child without anger and raising your voice.
Dr. John says we each have a tool in us, our tongue and mouth, he says that when we hear about a person who is labeled as an alcoholic, all we have to do is to give a kind smile, a kind hello addressing him by name. Dr. John says that person will realize that someone still cares for him; despite his reputation, and through remorse begin to change his ways. Simple kind gestures of a smile and named hello, Dr. John says, is the start of a person realizing that he is loved and can still be part of a health and sober society.
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The next question was, how and why have Yup’ik children changed in your opinion?
Dr. John answered, that today’s children have changed a lot, and he attributes the change to the availability of food, through food stamps, food is available to eat at anytime, he says, children aren’t disciplined as they used to, because they can eat at anytime. Dr John say the availability of food has changed traditional parenting, and says the thinking process has changed to the point where the parents’ teaching does not happen or goes unheard.
Dr. John also attributed the change in Yup’ik families to the western way of children becoming an adult and independent at 18 years old.
He says the Yup’ik do not stop loving their children when they have their 18th birthday, nor do they stop helping them. He says they love their children their whole lives.
We will have a “Pamyua” tomorrow on Dr. John’s lecture; he ended with a short Yup’ik story.
For KYUK news, I’m Sophie Evan.